100 Ways You Can Love Your Wife HER Way

1. Start and/or end each day by holding hands and praying together with your wife.

2. Pray for her every day and make it a point to pray with her when she is troubled.

3. Communicate with her instead of talking AT her or shutting her out emotionally.

4. Talk to her respectfully without demeaning her or hurting her feelings.

5. Compliment her for the giftedness you see in her. Be specific.

6. Show interest in her friends and give her time to be with them.

7. Do something active together to lift her spirit — taking a walk hand-in-hand.

8. Express to her that you need and value her.

9. Show enthusiasm for the things that she’s excited — your actions show it.

10. Find something that makes you laugh together.

11. Put your arms around her when she needs comfort, holding her silently.

12. Surprise her by doing something you think she would want done before she asks.

13. Try not to make sudden changes without discussing them with her first.

14. Show interest in that which she values as important in her life.

15. Allow your wife to teach you things without being defensive.

16. When you feel you must correct her, be gentle — the truth in LOVE.

17. Let go of the small stuff. We all have annoying habits and preferences that are different from our spouse’s. *(Dave Ramsey)*

18. Show her that she matters more to you than any one you could be with, that threatens her security in your marriage.

19. Be a good listener. Show her you value what she says.

20. Plan a mini-honeymoon, where the two of you can spend quality time together.

21. Go shopping with her and don’t sigh or look at what time it is even once.

22. Take her out to breakfast or make her breakfast (cleaning up afterward).

23. Make the time to set specific goals with her to achieve together for each year.

24. Give her grace when she offends you and forgive (even as you want to be forgiven).

25. Find ways to help her know you are her partner in all areas life.

26. Be polite, courteous, and mannerly with — taking her for granted.

27. Exhibit humility, admit your mistakes, and ask for forgiveness. She’ll appreciate that!

28. Defend her to — to your family.

29. Don’t belittle her intelligence.

30. Scratch her back, rub her feet, or her rub her — she’d prefer.

31. Get up in the middle of the night (let her stay in bed) to take care of your upset child.

32. Be especially helpful when she is not feeling well.

33. When she asks how your day went, don’t just say “fine” — give her details.

34. Thank God for her by name when the two of you are praying together.

35. Try not to argue over money. Peacefully discuss future expenditures instead.

36. Don’t embarrass her by arguing with her in front of others.

37. Lead your family in their spiritual relationship with God. This is important to her.

38. Make eye contact when she is talking to you and when you are talking with her.

39. Show her that you prefer her to — her your attention whenever possible.

40. Relate what happened at work or whatever you did apart from her.

41. Keep away from anything that gives you sexual gratification, other than your wife.

42. Be helpful, both before and during the time you have visitors in your home. (If you’re not sure of what to do, ask your wife “What can I do that would help the most?”)

43. Brag about her to others, both in front of her and when she is not with you.

44. Surprise her from time-to-time with a card and flowers or a little gift.

45. Remember to tell her or call her as soon as you know you are going to be late.

46. Give her your undivided attention when she wants to talk.

47. Guard your tongue from saying “unwholesome words” or down-grading her.

48. Refuse to compare her unfavorably with others.

49. Encourage her to relax in some way while you clean up after dinner.

50. Be an involved partner in helping with the children and spending time together.

51. Maintain good grooming habits so you look and smell good. It shows you care.

52. Be supportive. Help her to finish her education and goals that are important to her.

53. View and treat her as if God put a sign over her that said, “Make me feel special.”

54. Run errands without complaining.

55. Give her the love gift of being thoughtful and considerate to her relatives.

56. Don’t negatively compare her relatives with yours.

57. Sit close to her — when you are just watching television.

58. Be verbally supportive and honor her in front of the children.

59. Do not making plans without her agreeing with them (unless it’s a surprise).

60. Pro-actively do things that makes her feel cherished as a woman and as a wife.

61. Keep her trust at all costs. Leave no gray area when it comes to other female relationships, money and your word.* (Dave Ramsey)*

62. Ask for a list of 3 things she’d like done in the home. Priortize to do them ASAP.

63. Ask her and then listen to what makes her fearful and insecure (without judging).

64. Pray about and act upon what you can do to alleviate those fears.

65. Find out what her sexual needs are (and then try to fulfill them).

66. Surprise her with a 15 second kiss (with no expectations to go any further).

67. Put effort in to keep yourself in good shape so she’s especially proud to be with you.

68. Make it a point to write a mission statement together for your marriage and family.

69. Take the time to touch every — if it’s only for a minute or two.

70. Be polite and kind. (Often we’re kinder to strangers than we are to our spouse.)

71. Be sensitive enough to ask her if you offend or hurt her sexually in any way.

72. Go out of your way to help her feel valued over everyone else.

73. Consider her as your marital partner in how you spend money.

74. You dated your wife before marriage, and fell in love. Date her now to STAY in love.

75. Be careful to choose your words, especially when angry.

76. Show affection for her in front of friends.

77. Make sure your children speak to her and treat her in respectful ways.

78. Make a point of honoring anniversaries, birthdays, and other special occasions.

79. Make sure she has money to spend any way she would choose.

80. Hold her close and verbally express your love when she is hurt or discouraged.

81. Surprise her by giving her a special gift from time to time.

82. Share the responsibilities around the house (without looking for special recognition).

83. Don’t tease and belittle her, saying “I was just joking” when she doesn’t find it funny.

84. Allow her to express herself freely, without fear of being called illogical or dumb.

85. Don’t forget to hold her hand in public like you used to when you dated her.

86. Don’t criticize her in front of — her dignity in tact.

87. Don’t focus on the physical features of another woman (It dishonors your wife).

88. Be sensitive to her — for ways to bless her.

89. Let her know you want to spend special time with her and the children.

90. Fix dinner for her sometimes.

91. Be sympathetic when she’s — help her however you can.

92. Let her sleep in sometimes and you get the children ready for the day.

93. Honor her by not disagreeing with her in front of the children.

94. Don’t ignore the small things that bother her and let them build into bigger issues.

95. Surprise her by doing some things around the house that she’s wanted done.

96. Tell her (and show her) you love her often.

97. Call, email or text her when you’re apart so she knows you are thinking of her.

98. Surprise her by suggesting a marriage seminar or weekend retreat you can attend together.

99. Express your love and appreciation for her in a love note which you give to her.

100. Show her affection without sexual intentions.

100 Ways You Can Love Your Husband HIS Way

(If interested, there’s a list in the “Romantic Ideas” topic which gives husbands 100 ideas, titled, 100 Ways to Show Love to Your Husband HIS Way.)

100 Ways You Can Love Your Husband HIS Way

1. Respectfully communicate with him.

2. Let him know he’s important to you.

3. Purposefully try to understand his feelings — even when you disagree with him.

4. Show interest in his friends giving him some time with them if they’re trust-worthy.

5. Let go of the small stuff. We all have annoying habits and preferences that are different from our spouse’s. *(Dave Ramsey)*

6. Tell him you both love him AND like him.

7. Either show interest in his hobbies or allow him space to participate freely. *(D Ramsey)*

8. Protect his dignity on a daily basis.

9. When confronting him, realize he has feelings also.

10. Foster an atmosphere of laughter in your home. Look for ways to laugh together.

11. Try not to make sudden major changes without discussion, giving him time to adjust.

12. When you go out on a date together don’t bring up problems — have fun instead.

13. Focus on what he’s doing right, instead of focusing so often on the negatives.

14. Show interest in what he feels is important in life.

15. Give him special time with you apart from the children.

16. The first minutes after a spouse comes home often sets the stage for how the rest of the evening will go. Try to make that time a positive experience. (Ease into the negative.)

17. Give him time to unwind after he gets home from work. Your evenings will be much more enjoyable. (Dave Ramsey)

18. Don’t allow family members to treat him disrespectfully. Defend him to anyone that dishonors his place as your husband.

19. Compliment him often.

20. Be creative when you express your love, both in words and in actions.

21. Talk with him about having specific family goals for each year to achieve together to feel closer as a marital team.

22. Don’t over commit yourself. Leave time for him.

23. Extend God’s grace to him and be forgiving when he offends you.

24. Find ways to show him you need him.

25. Give him time to be alone. (This energizes him to reconnect at other times.)

26. Admit your mistakes; don’t be afraid to be humble. Peel away your pride.

27. Defend him to those who disrespectfully talk *about* him. Love protects (1 Cor. 13:7).

28. Respect his desire to do — his performance.

29. Rub his feet or neck, or scratch his back after a hard day.

30. Take time for the two of you to sit and talk calmly (schedule it when necessary).

31. Initiate going out on romantic outings (when he’s not tired).

32. Email him when he’s at work, telling him how much you love him.

33. Surprise him with a fun gift of some kind that he’d really enjoy.

34. Express how much you appreciate him for working so hard to support the family.

35. Tell him how proud you are of him for who he is (giving him specific reasons).

36. Give advice in a loving way — not in a nagging or belittling way.

37. Help your husband to be the Spiritual head at home (without “lording” it over him).

38. Reserve some energy for him so you’re not so tired when he wants you sexually.

39. Don’t expect him to do projects beyond his natural capabilities.

40. Pray for him to enjoy God’s best in life.

41. Take special notice for what he has done for you and the family.

42. Brag about him to other people both in front of him and even when he’s not there.

43. Keep conversations brief when he’s — he isn’t “flooded” by too many words.

44. Tell him 3 things you specifically appreciate about him.

45. Honor him in front of the children (differ respectfully in private when necessary).

46. ”Look straight into the eyes of your husband when he talks to you or if you’re speaking to him. This will make him feel that you are interested in what he wants to say.” (J. Clain)

47. Get up with him, even when he gets up earlier than you want to and pray with him (you can go back to bed afterward, if possible — it’s a sacrifice worth making.)

48. Be his “help-mate” in whatever ways you sense he needs it.

49. Participate in shoulder-to-shoulder activities with him (like watching a movie and such) without talking. Sometimes men just like to BE with you and not talk.

50. Be a student of his ways so you show your love in ways he best comprehends it.

51. When your husband is in a bad mood give him time to recover. Don’t crowd him.

52. Help him to finish his goals, hobbies, or education when your see he needs it.

53. Treat him as if God has stamped on his forehead: *“Handle With Care.”*

54. Work to get rid of habits that annoy him.

55. Be kind and thoughtful to his relatives. Don’t make him choose between you.

56. Don’t compare his relatives with yours in a negative way.

57. Thank him for things he’s done around the house. (It means a lot to men).

58. Don’t expect credit for all you do for him. Do it as “unto the Lord.”

59. Make sure he agrees with everything important that you’re planning to do.

60. Do little things for — him sleep in, bring him coffee, etc.

61. Don’t belittle his intelligence or be cynical in your words with him.

62. Initiate sex periodically. And respond more often.

63. Sometimes let him enjoy his day off work without having to “work” at home.

64. Get to the point in your discussions. Spare him details unless he wants them.

65. Discover his sexual needs.

66. Surprise him with a 15 second kiss when he gets home from work.

67. Wink at him from across the room when you’re out at a group function.

68. Give him the benefit of the doubt when he mis-speaks.

69. Don’t quarrel over words.

70. Be kind and courteous with him. (Don’t be kinder to strangers than to him.)

71. When things go wrong, instead of assessing blame, focus on how to do better.

72. As a kindness, don’t say, “I told you so.”

73. Try not to argue over money. Peacefully discuss future expenditures instead.

74. Take *him *out on — all of the details ahead of time.

75. Hold his hand and snuggle up close to him at times both at home and in public.

76. Praise his good decisions; minimize the bad ones.

77. Tell him you love him more *often.*

78. Put love notes in his pockets and brief case.

79. Sit with him while he’s watching — if the program doesn’t interest you.

80. Don’t expect him to read your mind (despite your thinking he should - extend grace).

81. Periodically, give him time with his family alone.

82. Check with him before you throw away his papers and stuff, when possible.

83. Put effort in to keep yourself in good shape so he’s especially proud to be with you.

84. Let him express himself freely, without fear of being called stupid or illogical.

85. Carefully choose your words. Remember to “speak the truth in LOVE.”

86. Don’t criticize him in front of — his dignity in tact.

87. Visit his childhood home with him.

88. When you’re angry, express it in respectful ways. Don’t give the silent treatment.

89. Pray for him.

90. Make him homemade soup when he’s sick.

91. Look your — to honor him and make him proud to be seen with you when you’re out together.

92. Support him when someone tries to put him down. Be his best cheer leader.

93. Don’t disagree with him in front of the children.

94. Take him for a weekend get-away without the children.

95. Cheer his successes whether in business or in other areas of everyday living.

96. Graciously teach him how to demonstrate his love for you.

97. Give him coupons to — for a back scratch or a shoulder rub.

98. Buy him a gift certificate to his favorite lunch spot and put it in his wallet.

99. Hide notes for him around the house where only he will find them.

100. Thank him for just being himself.

The author is unknown, for the list of “100 Ways.”

Published in June 2012.

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